I participate in an online recovery group.
With this online group, I felt like no one was taking it seriously. I had to remind myself that I didn’t always take recovery seriously and that I had a head start in comparison to how long the guys in that group have been working on their recovery.
So before I checked in and replied to the conversation I prayed asking God to show me how to add value to the group.
One of the guys mentioned that he was starting a therapy that deals with trauma and attachment disorders. I shared that I read somewhere (probably when studying counseling) that most addicts and especially porn and sex addicts have an attachment disorder. Someone asked what that meant.
So I said it basically meant a person doesn’t connect with others properly or in a healthy way. It opened up a discussion where everyone in the group shared their past problems connecting with others. It was as if made them think that makes sense or explains my problems in that area. I think one guy shared more than he had in the last three months. It was great to see them open up.
When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own but will tell you what he has heard. He will tell you about the future. He will bring me glory by telling you whatever he receives from me. All that belongs to the Father is mine; this is why I said, ‘The Spirit will tell you whatever he receives from me.’ ~John 16:13-15 NLT
As the Scriptures say, “If you want to boast, boast only about the Lord.” When people commend themselves, it doesn’t count for much. The important thing is for the Lord to commend them.
2 Corinthians 10:17-18 NLT
I could see how feeling good about that can lead some people to say look what I did instead of look what God did. I could see myself doing that. I don’t want to be that type of person. When I felt it I immediately prayed thanking God for what He did. I reminded myself that it is and should be all about God.
I never thought I would feel so much joy over the growth of others. It felt good.
This is the message you have heard from the beginning: We should love one another. We must not be like Cain, who belonged to the evil one and killed his brother. And why did he kill him? Because Cain had been doing what was evil, and his brother had been doing what was righteous. So don’t be surprised, dear brothers and sisters, if the world hates you.
If we love our brothers and sisters who are believers, it proves that we have passed from death to life. But a person who has no love is still dead. ~1 John 3:11-14
I thank God for not only showing my brothers the next step in their recovery, but showing me the next step in loving my brothers.